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Make the next school year the best ever!

A new school year is just around the corner.   Anticipation is high.  Stress levels are rising. You will soon be wanting answers to questions such as – What teacher will my child get?  Will she be able to do the work? How can I help make it a successful? How can I take the stress out of homework?

All good questions needing answering.  And here I am to answer them!

  • I can’t tell you which teacher your child will get – but I can tell you how to make any teacher the best teacher for your child.
  • I can’t tell you whether your child will be able to do the schoolwork – but I can tell you how give your child the skills that make learning easy.

And I can tell you how you can ensure your child has the best year ever, without homework issues and with less stress than you ever thought possible.

How can I promise this?  Because there is one secret that holds the key to your child’s success – and I can tell you where to get it.

Before I do that you need some context.

When you are not feeling well and you want to feel better you go to doctor who diagnoses the problem and tells you how to get healthy again.  You learn they type of support you need.

When you want to help your child learn you need a way to find the type of support that is going to make that happen.  You need a way of diagnosing your child’s learning needs.

If you guess what medicine will make you healthy or you guess what support will help your child needs … well, we all know what guessing can lead to.  You may take the wrong medicine and end up sicker than before.  and your child may get the type of support that makes learning more difficult.

So, the secret to making the next school year the best ever is to stop guessing what support your child needs and start discovering what support will make a difference.

I know, no one is telling you how you can do this.  No one is giving you the information and advice you need to make next year fantastic – until now!

Check out www.leadingtolearning.com , take the free easy diagnostic assessment and discover how you can make next year, and every year after that,  the year your child truly shines.

It is easy – and it works. What more can you ask for?

 

 

Kids, Truth, and Lies

There is a lot written about the concept of Post Truth – especially when it comes to politics!  But it is worth looking at how Post Truth works with kids and what you can do to counteract it.

Post Truth is defined (according to the Oxford English Dictionary) as an adjective ‘relating to or denoting circumstances in which objective facts are less influential in shaping public opinion than appeals to emotion and personal belief’.

Post Truth happens when people believe that their opinions and emotional beliefs are more important, more truthful, than actual facts.

Parents and teacher know about Post Truth. Children are very good at using Post Truth, especially when they are in trouble.

Picture this – two eight-year old boys who have been fighting are standing in front of a teacher who is trying to work out who is to blame and how to turn the situation into a ‘teachable moment’.  Both boys have opinions and emotional beliefs about who threw the first punch.  Both boys believe that the other ‘started it’.

The situation is not going to get resolved until the teacher (or parent) gets to the true facts of what happened. Some teachers might punish both boys – after all, they were both fighting.  But that will lead to them both being resentful and angry.  Not a good solution.

What does a good teacher – or parent – do to help the boys get beyond their Post Truth beliefs and admit who was in the wrong, who started the fight?

This is how I handled situations like this when I was a teacher.

I asked a lot of questions.  I tried to get a good picture of the whole situation. I asked questions about the situation before the fight started. I asked questions about what happened before fists started flying, before angry words were spoken.

I tried to get the facts.  I asked questions until I was sure that I had the facts. Then I presented these facts to both boys and asked for their comments.  In the vast majority of cases both boys agreed on the facts, agreed who was to blame (often they both had things to be ashamed of) and we all moved on – with a warning not to let it happen again.  Post Truth had become real Truth.    Emotions and beliefs had given way to facts.

No big deal, kids often take their opinions and beliefs as being the truth and have to be encouraged to look at the actual facts before they admit that their truth might not be the best one!

Most children gradually grow into an understanding that their beliefs and opinions might be wrong or misguided and they beyond their self-centredness to discover the real facts about situations. Thanks Google. Thanks Wikipedia. Thanks common sense.  (Even though these three are not infallible!)

But what happens when a child does not develop the skill of looking for and accepting the real facts and continues to believe that his or her opinions are more important than those of others?

Friends can be hard to find.  The only friends they will have are those who think the same way they do, who do not look for the truth, who think that their opinions and actions are more important than those of others.  In extreme cases such children become sociopaths, unable to function well in normal society.  Maybe even ending up on the wrong side of the law.

It is the role of every parent and every teacher to help children move beyond their reliance on Post Truths and help them discover the facts and realities of situations.  It is the role of every parent and teacher to help children become critical thinkers, to question situations until the truth is revealed.

The future depends on it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The #1 Secret to Avoiding Homework Hassle

The Homework Hassle

The Homework Hassle

Do you help your child do his homework?  Most parents do.

Do you get frustrated when things don’t seem to work out?  Most parents do.

Do you confuse your child rather than helping make things clear?  Most parents do.

Do you think homework is a hassle?  Most parents… well you get the picture.

The #1 secret to avoiding the homework hassle is to understand your role in helping kids learn.  YOU ARE NOT YOUR CHILD’S SCHOOLTEACHER!  You cannot be expected to teach your child the same way his teacher does.  First, you are probably not trained to teach and even if you are you will be trying to help your child in ways that differ from the ways he learned in class.

Poor kids – they appreciate your help but they often feel more confused and upset than ever.

This is what you do.

You provide a safe, timely space for your child to do his homework. You stay close enough to offer help if needed – but he help you offer is encouragement and understanding of your child’s efforts.

If your child has difficulty with homework – TELL HIS TEACHER!!!  It is the teacher’s job to make sure that he understands and can do his work.

Don’t confuse your role with the role of the teacher – that way no one wins.